she told me she'd started talking to an ai companion and wanted to make our relationship 'emotionally inclusive.' i asked what that meant and received an explanation involving boundaries, labels, and shared affection
a week later i went on a friendly lunch with a coworker. my girlfriend was furious, saying i'd violated the relationship agreement. i asked when we'd agreed to anything beyond being exclusive with each other
she explained that her chatbot counted as a partner but my coworker represented a threat. i asked her to explain the distinction without changing the rules mid-sentence. she couldn't
we finally wrote down the boundaries we both actually accepted. it was a short document. it didn't require a diagram, and it didn't give anyone special exemptions